Thursday, May 17, 2018






6 Do’s and Don’ts of Self-Care for New Caregivers

Being a new caregiver can come with a unique set of stresses as you shift much of your life to focus on someone else. Research has shown that stress can impact both your physical health and mental health. Here are some important self-care reminders that keep you healthy and happy, as well as help maximize your caregiving abilities.

Do Find a Communication Outlet

Many new caregivers are faced with a set of experiences and challenges that are difficult to anticipate, and finding someone who is willing to listen or help is often a powerful source of comfort. Express yourself and talk about your feelings or experiences. It can help you identify solutions to difficulties you may run into and cope with your new responsibilities.

A 2016 report from the Health and Wellness Division of the National Academy of Sciences, Engineering, and Medicine reports that counseling and self-care can contribute to the overall health of the caregiver as well as the person being cared for. Some people find that talking to a counselor is most beneficial, while other find that simply having a friend to talk to is sufficient.

Don’t Shut Yourself Off from Friends

The New York Times highlighted one of the most prominent problems some caregivers might encounter: social isolation. Isolation can become acute as you focus constantly on the person or people under your care.

Meaningful, healthy relationships help you recharge and continue being an effective caregiver. Focus on maintaining current social ties that you have, such as a book group, a church group, friends you exercise with, or any other wholesome source.

Do Make Something Tasty

The deadlines that come with being a new caregiver can make you feel like it’s almost impossible to eat well. As you settle into your new caregiving responsibilities, it can be hard to find time to make food every day or to eat well all the time. A little meal prep can go a long way.

Even if you just plan a couple of meals each week, preparing them when you have a little down time minimizes the time required later in the week. Additionally, being able to treat yourself to a healthy dish that you really enjoy can be an excellent way to shed some stress and just unwind.

Do Build Mental Resilience

As a new caregiver, you might experience difficulty with personal care issues like feeding or dressing, and it’s important to think through these experiences in advance to come up with ways to make it easier.

There are lots of great resources, such as help groups both online and as meetups, where people are going through similar things to you and can help you find ways to deal with challenges that arise. Take a look at what you’re doing right, too. It helps you identify progress you’re making and can contribute to resilience.

Don’t Self-Medicate

When you’re stressed out, it might be tempting to reach for the bottle or take medication that helps numb the pain. However, these can be highly addictive. A recent study showed that caregivers who take care of patients with heavy burdens are likelier than the control group of caregivers to consume antidepressants. Caregivers who care for dementia patients need to especially utilize self-care, which includes avoiding excessive alcohol and drug use.

Do Something That Makes You Laugh

Whether you watch a favorite episode from a sitcom you love or you snuggle in for a night reading a funny book, laughing lightens the responsibilities of caregiving. A recent HuffPost article highlighted how important it is to take your caregiver role seriously while also not beating yourself up or taking things personally. Being able to decompress at the end of the day by laughing can help you avoid burnout.

It’s easy to lose yourself as you settle into your caregiver role. Take steps to make sure that you care for yourself; it’ll make you a far more effective and capable caregiver.

Author

Harry Cline is creator of NewCaregiver.org and author of the upcoming book, The A-Z Home Care Handbook: Health Management How-Tos for Senior Caregivers. As a retired nursing home administrator, father of three, and caregiver to his ninety-year-old uncle, Harry knows how challenging and rewarding caregiving can be. He also understands that caregiving is often overwhelming for those just starting out. He created his website and is writing his new book to offer new caregivers everywhere help and support.

God Bless & Keep You & This Country of Ours!

PS> as you know I am not a caregiver but suffer from Alzheimer's and Dementia.  Harry approached me and asked if he could write an article for my blog, well there it is.


Saturday, January 06, 2018

Additional Resources for Dementia and Seniors

I just created a new page on my blog:  Additional Resources.
You will find new links there and some of the older ones as I move them.  This is to help blog load faster and to post info that I get from others. Hope you Find it helpful.

God Bless,
Joe

Thursday, December 28, 2017

Freed from Alzheimer's!!

I was reading a post from a lady in the group Alzheimer's and Dementia that I have the honor of being part of.  Her hubby just passed the other day, she used a word i believe in when we with the disease of Alzheimer's, dementia, parkinson's etc. he was FREED.  That is my belief.  You see we with these diseases are not in a battle, like it is said of those who die from their battle with cancer, oh no we are in a WAR, those that suffer know what I mean.  Alzheimer's lost the WAR it took his mortal body, but HE was FREED and won the right to be whoever he was and even more. He now joins the universal choir to sing and praise and hear the voice of the armies that have gone before him. Yes I envy him, I long to leave this hell I live in.

Constantly being asked how are you, are you ok, how do you feel, I understand how it is for you, the Hell you do I say.  Of course I am not ok, my hands can no longer paint, use power tools, build things, I have trouble talking right, I walk like a one legged antelope.  No I am not ok, this disease sucks big time.

To my friend I say, throw open your windows, clean the windows, clean the curtains and drapes, wash the bed sheets and floors.  Let the fresh air sweep away the stench you have lived with. Take a shower and was the dust of the war from your body, let the burden you have carried float down the drain, for you also have been FREED from you task.  It is now your time to live again as your hubby would tell you in his new found freedom.

Move on, do not morn, rejoice in the time you had with him that is what matters now. Live, Live, Live and be happy. Your burden is gone and Your HUBBY is VERY, VERY happy now in his new freedom.  The Voice of the universe will be his guide and friend from now on.

God Bless & Keep You & This Country of Ours!
joe

Tuesday, December 19, 2017

It has been awhile, but have not been quite up to par.  Guess all this moving, making improvements and the Holidays have taken their toll this year. To top it off, my computer moved and took everything with it. Emails, contacts, programs and my life. Oh well shit happens and seems to do so more these days. I am still breathing, I think. Going back into counseling to see if we can somewhat put this ½ brain cell I have in some order, lots of luck.

We have cat number 3, his name is Raptor.  He is an F1 male Savanah and has special needs, his rear legs are folded.  What a terror.  He was about 3weeks when we got him, not 3 months, went from 1 pound 2 oz to over 5 pounds now.  The other two love playing with him and him with them. They run all over chasing each other.

As for me I am very tired and not too much with it these days.  With loosing my emails and contacts well hard to respond to people.  If any of you wish to help me with my contacts send me an email:
jolynn1@cox.net.

Till next time take care.

God Bless You and Keep You and This Country of Ours!
joe